FOR THE WOMAN WHO'S TRIED DATE NIGHTS, THE BOOKS,

THE COUPLES COUNSELLING...

YOUR

RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION

STARTS HERE!

Relationship Rescue™ - Is It Too Late?

No love, no intimacy, constant arguments...and you start wondering,

Is it time to divorce?

This is where I can help!

Not your usual "Talk Therapy", but a new way of looking at

relationship counselling.

Yes it might be time to divorce - but it also might be time to shift your old patterns.

This relationship coaching is for you if:

You've tried relationship counselling before and nothing changed

Your partner doesn't want to commit to counselling

(you CAN make massive changes (alone) in the Relationship Rescue™ program)

You are uncertain and fearful of your next steps in your relationship

You feel like you're the only one in your marriage trying

You feel like you love him, but not IN love with him

You want to bring back your identity in your relationship

How You Can Make Changes in Your Marriage

Free Guide to No BS Answers...

Feel numb, confused, or like you’re living with a roommate instead of a partner?

This no-fluff guide walks you through five powerful questions that cut through the overthinking and help you get real about where your marriage stands — and

what to do next.

If you’re stuck between “should I stay or go?” — start here.

90 Day Transformative Program

For women ready to learn more, you will realise that your own healing is the catalyst for your growth - and

your partner’s.

In 90 days, you’ll clear the emotional fog, stop repeating old patterns, and finally know whether to stay and rebuild — or leave with peace and certainty.

No more overthinking. Just clarity, confidence, and a real plan forward.

What Other's Say....

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

I don't know whether to stay in my relationship, can you help me?

Absolutely! For so many couples, knowing what's the right decision to make is hard.

This is what Relationship Counselling is for.

It's my job to help you (either alone or with your partner) uncover that and pull out the truth of where you are and what you truly want to do in life.

Word of warning - it's my job to boost your confidence so much that YOU decide what you want to do for you. This doesn't always mean staying. This can also be starting fresh. But the choice becomes clearer for you to make.

Does relationship counselling work?

This gets asked a lot! And really, the question turns into - what's the definition of "work"?

If by work, we mean...

  • Will you feel confident to make the decision that's right for you? Then yes, it works.

  • Will you feel more love for yourself and therefore others? Then yes, it works.

  • Are you going to be more in control of your reactions, your communication, your ability to handle conflict? Yes!

As a coach with expertise in psychology and behaviour, I quickly get to the root of the problem and guide you into shifting these patterns with new ways of communicating and treating each other.

Does it guarantee that your relationship will become exactly what you want? No. Because there are 2 parties involved.

Does it guarantee that you (and for couples who participate in the program together - both of you!) will feel clearer on your direction, your outcomes and your desires? Yes!

And for those couples committed to doing the work, you'll be amazed at what you can do to shift the passion, the fun, the connection in your relationship.

What's your guarantee?

Following all steps in the program and in the trainings will give you the techniques to completely transform your relationship.

BUT - just as you can't hire a personal trainer and expect them to do the weights for you and for you to see the results - I do not have a magic wand! You need to complete the program as outlined to see the results.

I will kick your a$$ when needed and ultimately -

You are responsible for showing up and putting in the work. If you don't use the techniques, you won't see any changes!

I can't guarantee your relationship will become perfect and long-lasting.

What I guarantee, is you will feel more amazing about YOURSELF and your life - no matter what's going on around you.

What's the cost?

I am passionate about helping anyone from all backgrounds and all budgets to access advice and guidance in context of love and relationships. As a former single-mum, I know I couldn't afford coaching and therapy when I was struggling to put food on the table for my kids!

For this reason I give out as much content as I can for FREE! (see my socials for this!)

I want you all to succeed in your relationships.


I run many free and super-cheap workshops you can attend.

Group workshops are aimed at remaining an affordable price for you to attend and get huge value from the programs.

Private relationship counselling varies in price, depending on individual/couples needs, goals and wants.

I work closely with a dedicated finance company, who do what they can to help their clients invest in themselves. Payment plan options can start from as little as $25 a week! (and that's like...roughly, 4 coffees a week?!). Have a look at some of their options here...

TLC Finance Company

For many couples, investing in improving their relationship comes too late - and they're staring at the possibility of losing half of everything you own from expensive divorce lawyers and courts...compared to that route, relationship counselling is cheap!!

I've heard a quote once from a male motivational speaker that made me chuckle -

"IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP HER"

I encourage you to reach out for options.

Let's chat to make a plan together xx

We don't have much time - how much work is there?

Yes, fitting ANOTHER thing in to your busy schedule can seem crazy. I agree! The work we do together is about clearing your life to make things easier.

We can design a plan for the program that works for you/you both.

See the options for programs and courses to see the possibilities.

What is different about your couples counselling?

There are many differences that I use in my programs compared to traditional counselling.

1) NLP

As a Master Practitioner and Trainer, I use techniques from NLP = Neuro Linguistic Programming (I know, what a name, right!!)

NLP helps us identify what you're doing in your head, the patterns that you've developed over years of functioning - then changes those patterns to serve you better.

2) Time Line Therapy ®

For 20+ years I carried around trauma from my childhood. 20+ years of traditional talk therapy, seeing Psychologists, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, even studying Psychology myself...and never managed to clear my triggers from my experiencing sexual abuse.

I was sick and tired of talking about it and re-living it!!

Then I experienced Time Line Therapy ®!

It is a process that allows you to clear yourself from crappy experiences and memories - without you even having to tell me what they are!! Imagine that - a process that doesn't require MORE talking about what went wrong!?

For many clients, Time Line Therapy ® leaves them feeling lighter and more in control of their emotions and decisions in their relationships - and life!!

3) Me First, Us Forever™ Program

You CAN work alone!

One of the biggest differences is that I work with individuals in the context of their relationship.

If one party finds the idea of couples counselling aversive - that's ok.

You can make MASSIVE differences from one person alone.

As I did - see my story in the About Me section.

Shifting old patterns, trauma, self-doubt, jealousy...and anything else that's come along with you all these years. This is where the magic happens.

Don't forget...it's not your partner's job to fix a trauma they didn't create!

And if they did make mistakes that you're finding hard to let go - then let's do the work together to free you from it!

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5 Signs Your Marriage Is Over

June 08, 20254 min read

How to Know When It's Time to Let Go or Rebuild

If you’ve found yourself Googling “Is my marriage over?” while hiding in the bathroom or crying in the car after yet another argument — you’re not alone.
And no, you’re not crazy for feeling this lost.

For many women in long-term relationships, especially those navigating midlife marriage problems, the lines between love, obligation, comfort, and confusion blur.

This article is for you if:

  • You feel more like roommates than lovers

  • You’ve tried talking, trying, even couples counselling... and nothing sticks

  • You silently wonder, “Should I stay or go?”

Let’s break down the real signs your marriage may be over — and how to know if it’s time to leave, or time to take a different approach to healing.


1. You’re not in love anymore — and you’re scared to admit it

This is one of the most searched questions:
“How do I know if I’ve fallen out of love?”
And the answer isn’t always obvious.

For many women, it’s not a dramatic breakup moment. It’s a quiet realisation. The spark is gone. You feel numb. You’ve stopped reaching for each other. And the idea of rekindling intimacy feels more exhausting than exciting.

If you’re thinking, “I love him, but I’m not in love with him,”— that’s worth listening to.


2. You feel more like housemates than a couple

You share a home. You maybe co-parent well. You manage the bills. But something deeper is missing.
No kisses hello. No “How was your day?” No warmth. No laughter.
Just passing each other in the hallway like flatmates.

This kind of emotional disconnect doesn’t just happen overnight. It’s usually the result of months or years of slowly growing apart. But it is a sign your connection is no longer being nourished — and without attention, that distance only widens.


3. You’ve tried everything — and your partner still won’t change

You’ve read the books. You’ve talked. You’ve asked. You’ve begged.
You might’ve even tried couples counselling or marriage therapy…
And nothing has shifted.

You start to wonder:
“Am I asking for too much?”
“Is this just how all marriages are?”
“Maybe I should be more patient…”

Here’s the truth: you’re allowed to want change.

And if your partner continues to ignore your needs, minimise your feelings, or shut down every effort you’ve made — it’s not on you to keep pushing.


4. You don’t miss him when he’s gone — and secretly fantasise about a different life

When you’re in a connected, loving marriage, time apart makes the heart grow fonder.
But when the love is fading… the silence can feel like freedom.

If you feel lighter when he’s away or daydream about what life would be like on your own — that’s your nervous system showing you what peace might feel like.


It doesn’t mean the marriage is over — but it does mean something’s deeply out of alignment.


5. You’ve lost yourself trying to make it work

You’ve become the “fixer.” The “try harder-er.”

You’re always the one suggesting conversations, initiating sex, booking therapy, reading the books.
And with every failed attempt, you lose a little more of yourself.

Over time, resentment builds. You begin to question your worth. You wonder why he doesn’t fight for the marriage the way you do.

The real tragedy?

Without the right support, trying to save a relationship alone will burn you out.


So… Is Your Marriage Over? Or Just at a Crossroads?

Here’s what I know from working with women like you:

💔 You don’t just want to survive your relationship.
You want to feel alive, connected, and like yourself again.

That starts with a question no one else can answer for you:
What do you want — truly?

And if that question feels too heavy to answer alone, I’ve created something that might help.

👉 [FREE GUIDE] “Roommates Not Lovers: 5 Brutally Honest Questions to know if You're Done - or Just Disconnected”

Download it now and get the clarity you’ve been searching for — without dragging him to therapy, and without blowing up your life.

Roommates Not Lovers: 5 Brutally Honest Questions to know if You're Done - or Just Disconnected”


And if you need support right now...

Book a free 30-minute Relationship Clarity Call with me.

In our call, we’ll unpack:

  • Why therapy and talking haven’t worked

  • What’s really keeping you stuck (hint: it’s not just him)

  • How to make a decision you can live with — and feel proud of

Because you deserve more than surviving.
You deserve to feel certain, seen, and in love with life again — whatever decision you make.

Book your call here Relationship Clarity Call

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With a degree in Psychology and now as an NLP Master Coach and Trainer, Pam is here to help women create their dream relationships - even if they are unsure whether to stay or go.

Pam Reid

With a degree in Psychology and now as an NLP Master Coach and Trainer, Pam is here to help women create their dream relationships - even if they are unsure whether to stay or go.

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