FOR THE WOMAN WHO'S TRIED DATE NIGHTS, THE BOOKS,

THE COUPLES COUNSELLING...

YOUR

RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION

STARTS HERE!

Relationship Rescue™ - Is It Too Late?

No love, no intimacy, constant arguments...and you start wondering,

Is it time to divorce?

This is where I can help!

Not your usual "Talk Therapy", but a new way of looking at

relationship counselling.

Yes it might be time to divorce - but it also might be time to shift your old patterns.

This relationship coaching is for you if:

You've tried relationship counselling before and nothing changed

Your partner doesn't want to commit to counselling

(you CAN make massive changes (alone) in the Relationship Rescue™ program)

You are uncertain and fearful of your next steps in your relationship

You feel like you're the only one in your marriage trying

You feel like you love him, but not IN love with him

You want to bring back your identity in your relationship

How You Can Make Changes in Your Marriage

Free Guide to No BS Answers...

Feel numb, confused, or like you’re living with a roommate instead of a partner?

This no-fluff guide walks you through five powerful questions that cut through the overthinking and help you get real about where your marriage stands — and

what to do next.

If you’re stuck between “should I stay or go?” — start here.

90 Day Transformative Program

For women ready to learn more, you will realise that your own healing is the catalyst for your growth - and

your partner’s.

In 90 days, you’ll clear the emotional fog, stop repeating old patterns, and finally know whether to stay and rebuild — or leave with peace and certainty.

No more overthinking. Just clarity, confidence, and a real plan forward.

What Other's Say....

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

I don't know whether to stay in my relationship, can you help me?

Absolutely! For so many couples, knowing what's the right decision to make is hard.

This is what Relationship Counselling is for.

It's my job to help you (either alone or with your partner) uncover that and pull out the truth of where you are and what you truly want to do in life.

Word of warning - it's my job to boost your confidence so much that YOU decide what you want to do for you. This doesn't always mean staying. This can also be starting fresh. But the choice becomes clearer for you to make.

Does relationship counselling work?

This gets asked a lot! And really, the question turns into - what's the definition of "work"?

If by work, we mean...

  • Will you feel confident to make the decision that's right for you? Then yes, it works.

  • Will you feel more love for yourself and therefore others? Then yes, it works.

  • Are you going to be more in control of your reactions, your communication, your ability to handle conflict? Yes!

As a coach with expertise in psychology and behaviour, I quickly get to the root of the problem and guide you into shifting these patterns with new ways of communicating and treating each other.

Does it guarantee that your relationship will become exactly what you want? No. Because there are 2 parties involved.

Does it guarantee that you (and for couples who participate in the program together - both of you!) will feel clearer on your direction, your outcomes and your desires? Yes!

And for those couples committed to doing the work, you'll be amazed at what you can do to shift the passion, the fun, the connection in your relationship.

What's your guarantee?

Following all steps in the program and in the trainings will give you the techniques to completely transform your relationship.

BUT - just as you can't hire a personal trainer and expect them to do the weights for you and for you to see the results - I do not have a magic wand! You need to complete the program as outlined to see the results.

I will kick your a$$ when needed and ultimately -

You are responsible for showing up and putting in the work. If you don't use the techniques, you won't see any changes!

I can't guarantee your relationship will become perfect and long-lasting.

What I guarantee, is you will feel more amazing about YOURSELF and your life - no matter what's going on around you.

What's the cost?

I am passionate about helping anyone from all backgrounds and all budgets to access advice and guidance in context of love and relationships. As a former single-mum, I know I couldn't afford coaching and therapy when I was struggling to put food on the table for my kids!

For this reason I give out as much content as I can for FREE! (see my socials for this!)

I want you all to succeed in your relationships.


I run many free and super-cheap workshops you can attend.

Group workshops are aimed at remaining an affordable price for you to attend and get huge value from the programs.

Private relationship counselling varies in price, depending on individual/couples needs, goals and wants.

I work closely with a dedicated finance company, who do what they can to help their clients invest in themselves. Payment plan options can start from as little as $25 a week! (and that's like...roughly, 4 coffees a week?!). Have a look at some of their options here...

TLC Finance Company

For many couples, investing in improving their relationship comes too late - and they're staring at the possibility of losing half of everything you own from expensive divorce lawyers and courts...compared to that route, relationship counselling is cheap!!

I've heard a quote once from a male motivational speaker that made me chuckle -

"IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP HER"

I encourage you to reach out for options.

Let's chat to make a plan together xx

We don't have much time - how much work is there?

Yes, fitting ANOTHER thing in to your busy schedule can seem crazy. I agree! The work we do together is about clearing your life to make things easier.

We can design a plan for the program that works for you/you both.

See the options for programs and courses to see the possibilities.

What is different about your couples counselling?

There are many differences that I use in my programs compared to traditional counselling.

1) NLP

As a Master Practitioner and Trainer, I use techniques from NLP = Neuro Linguistic Programming (I know, what a name, right!!)

NLP helps us identify what you're doing in your head, the patterns that you've developed over years of functioning - then changes those patterns to serve you better.

2) Time Line Therapy ®

For 20+ years I carried around trauma from my childhood. 20+ years of traditional talk therapy, seeing Psychologists, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, even studying Psychology myself...and never managed to clear my triggers from my experiencing sexual abuse.

I was sick and tired of talking about it and re-living it!!

Then I experienced Time Line Therapy ®!

It is a process that allows you to clear yourself from crappy experiences and memories - without you even having to tell me what they are!! Imagine that - a process that doesn't require MORE talking about what went wrong!?

For many clients, Time Line Therapy ® leaves them feeling lighter and more in control of their emotions and decisions in their relationships - and life!!

3) Me First, Us Forever™ Program

You CAN work alone!

One of the biggest differences is that I work with individuals in the context of their relationship.

If one party finds the idea of couples counselling aversive - that's ok.

You can make MASSIVE differences from one person alone.

As I did - see my story in the About Me section.

Shifting old patterns, trauma, self-doubt, jealousy...and anything else that's come along with you all these years. This is where the magic happens.

Don't forget...it's not your partner's job to fix a trauma they didn't create!

And if they did make mistakes that you're finding hard to let go - then let's do the work together to free you from it!

Read My Blog

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Ready to Leave? Why Doing This First Could Change Everything

July 31, 20253 min read

“Wherever you go, there you are.” — Jon Kabat-Zinn

Even if you’ve got one foot out the door, read this first.

You’re here because something doesn’t feel right anymore.

Maybe you’re googling things like:


👉 “Should I leave my marriage?”
👉 “What to do when the love is gone”
👉 “Is emotional disconnection a sign it’s over?”
👉 “I feel like roommates, not lovers”
👉 “I love him but I’m not in love anymore”

If so, I see you.


And I know how heavy this space can feel.

You might be one conversation away from walking out…

Or maybe you've already mentally packed your bags and are just waiting for the right moment.

But here’s what I want you to know:

Even if you're certain you're done…
Even if you believe the love is gone forever…
Even if your heart aches for something more...

There is still work worth doing.


And it’s not about fixing him.
It’s not even about saving the relationship.


It’s about clearing what’s yours, so whatever happens next is clean.

What if love isn’t gone — just buried?

Sometimes what looks like the end is actually a beginning.


Sometimes love doesn’t disappear… it just gets drowned in resentment, routine, or unmet needs.


Other times, yes, the love has run its course. But you can’t actually know which it is when your nervous system is fried, your emotions are hijacked, and you haven’t taken the time to meet yourself first.

This is what “doing the work” means.


It’s not cliché.
It’s clarity.


And it’s the difference between:

  • dragging the same patterns into your next relationship (even if you swear you'll “never go there again”)

  • or leaving with peace, self-trust, and no regrets.

Leaving without the work is like changing suburbs and expecting a new life…

You can get a new partner.


New house.


New freedom.


But if you don’t untangle the old beliefs, triggers, and hidden wounds… the same fights will eventually resurface — just with a new face.

And I say this not to guilt you into staying.
But to offer you something better than a fast exit or a messy repeat.

Because this is your life.
And you deserve to feel whole, no matter what happens to your relationship.

The truth most women don’t hear:

You don’t have to stay to do the work.


And you don’t have to leave to get clarity.


What you do need is the willingness to pause, reflect, and reconnect with yourself again — away from the noise.

You may find the love was there all along.
You may find you’ve outgrown this relationship.

Either way… you’ll know you didn’t run.

And that’s something no one can take from you.

So if you're wondering…

  • “Should I stay or go?”

  • “Have I fallen out of love or just disconnected?”

  • “Will I regret leaving?”

  • “What if I never find love again?”

Here’s your invitation to stop spiralling and start untangling.


Your marriage might be ending.
But you are just getting started.


Want help figuring out what’s really going on?
Start by understanding where YOU are at. Join my short course 'Have I Fallen Out of Love?"


Or book a free call to explore what’s next — no pressure, just clarity.

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With a degree in Psychology and now as an NLP Master Coach and Trainer, Pam is here to help women create their dream relationships - even if they are unsure whether to stay or go.

Pam Reid

With a degree in Psychology and now as an NLP Master Coach and Trainer, Pam is here to help women create their dream relationships - even if they are unsure whether to stay or go.

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