YOUR

RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION

STARTS HERE!

Me First, Us Forever™

No love, no intimacy, constant arguments...and you start wondering,

Is it time to divorce?

This is where I can help!

Not your usual "Talk Therapy", but a new way of looking at

relationship counselling.

Yes it might be time to divorce - but it also might be time to shift your old patterns.

This relationship coaching is for you if:

You've tried relationship counselling before and nothing changed

Your partner doesn't want to commit to counselling

(you CAN make massive changes in the Me First, Us Forever™ program)

You are uncertain and fearful of your next steps in your relationship

You face constant arguments and conflict in your relationship

You want to make things work for the family

You want to bring back your identity in your relationship

What Other's Say....

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

I don't know whether to stay in my relationship, can you help me?

Absolutely! For so many couples, knowing what's the right decision to make is hard.

This is what Relationship Counselling is for.

It's my job to help you (either alone or with your partner) uncover that and pull out the truth of where you are and what you truly want to do in life.

Word of warning - it's my job to boost your confidence so much that YOU decide what you want to do for you. This doesn't always mean staying. This can also be starting fresh. But the choice becomes clearer for you to make.

Does relationship counselling work?

This gets asked a lot! And really, the question turns into - what's the definition of "work"?

If by work, we mean...

  • Will you feel confident to make the decision that's right for you? Then yes, it works.

  • Will you feel more love for yourself and therefore others? Then yes, it works.

  • Are you going to be more in control of your reactions, your communication, your ability to handle conflict? Yes!

As a coach with expertise in psychology and behaviour, I quickly get to the root of the problem and guide you into shifting these patterns with new ways of communicating and treating each other.

Does it guarantee that your relationship will become exactly what you want? No. Because there are 2 parties involved.

Does it guarantee that you (and for couples who participate in the program together - both of you!) will feel clearer on your direction, your outcomes and your desires? Yes!

And for those couples committed to doing the work, you'll be amazed at what you can do to shift the passion, the fun, the connection in your relationship.

What's your guarantee?

Following all steps in the program and in the trainings will give you the techniques to completely transform your relationship.

BUT - just as you can't hire a personal trainer and expect them to do the weights for you and for you to see the results - I do not have a magic wand! You need to complete the program as outlined to see the results.

I will kick your a$$ when needed and ultimately -

You are responsible for showing up and putting in the work. If you don't use the techniques, you won't see any changes!

I can't guarantee your relationship will become perfect and long-lasting.

What I guarantee, is you will feel more amazing about YOURSELF and your life - no matter what's going on around you.

What's the cost?

I am passionate about helping anyone from all backgrounds and all budgets to access advice and guidance in context of love and relationships. As a former single-mum, I know I couldn't afford coaching and therapy when I was struggling to put food on the table for my kids!

For this reason I give out as much content as I can for FREE! (see my socials for this!)

I want you all to succeed in your relationships.


I run many free and super-cheap workshops you can attend.

Group workshops are aimed at remaining an affordable price for you to attend and get huge value from the programs.

Private relationship counselling varies in price, depending on individual/couples needs, goals and wants.

I work closely with a dedicated finance company, who do what they can to help their clients invest in themselves. Payment plan options can start from as little as $25 a week! (and that's like...roughly, 4 coffees a week?!). Have a look at some of their options here...

TLC Finance Company

For many couples, investing in improving their relationship comes too late - and they're staring at the possibility of losing half of everything you own from expensive divorce lawyers and courts...compared to that route, relationship counselling is cheap!!

I've heard a quote once from a male motivational speaker that made me chuckle -

"IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP HER"

I encourage you to reach out for options.

Let's chat to make a plan together xx

We don't have much time - how much work is there?

Yes, fitting ANOTHER thing in to your busy schedule can seem crazy. I agree! The work we do together is about clearing your life to make things easier.

We can design a plan for the program that works for you/you both.

See the options for programs and courses to see the possibilities.

What is different about your couples counselling?

There are many differences that I use in my programs compared to traditional counselling.

1) NLP

As a Master Practitioner and Trainer, I use techniques from NLP = Neuro Linguistic Programming (I know, what a name, right!!)

NLP helps us identify what you're doing in your head, the patterns that you've developed over years of functioning - then changes those patterns to serve you better.

2) Time Line Therapy ®

For 20+ years I carried around trauma from my childhood. 20+ years of traditional talk therapy, seeing Psychologists, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, even studying Psychology myself...and never managed to clear my triggers from my experiencing sexual abuse.

I was sick and tired of talking about it and re-living it!!

Then I experienced Time Line Therapy ®!

It is a process that allows you to clear yourself from crappy experiences and memories - without you even having to tell me what they are!! Imagine that - a process that doesn't require MORE talking about what went wrong!?

For many clients, Time Line Therapy ® leaves them feeling lighter and more in control of their emotions and decisions in their relationships - and life!!

3) Me First, Us Forever™ Program

You CAN work alone!

One of the biggest differences is that I work with individuals in the context of their relationship.

If one party finds the idea of couples counselling aversive - that's ok.

You can make MASSIVE differences from one person alone.

As I did - see my story in the About Me section.

Shifting old patterns, trauma, self-doubt, jealousy...and anything else that's come along with you all these years. This is where the magic happens.

Don't forget...it's not your partner's job to fix a trauma they didn't create!

And if they did make mistakes that you're finding hard to let go - then let's do the work together to free you from it!

Read My Blog

Is It Me or My Job?

Do I Hate My Job Or Do I Hate Working?

August 05, 20233 min read

Stuck in a Job You Hate?

Discover the Surprising Truth

Behind Your Career Dissatisfaction

Introduction:

Have you ever found yourself sitting at your desk, feeling an overwhelming sense of frustration and discontentment? Maybe you catch yourself daydreaming about a life where work no longer plays a significant role. If you're experiencing such emotions, you may be wondering, "Do I hate my job, or do I hate working altogether?"

In this blog, I'll explore the difference between hating your job and hating work itself, offering insights to help you make sense of your feelings.

How Do I Know if I Really Hate My Job?

Identifying whether your feelings stem from a deep dislike for your current job or a broader aversion to the concept of working can be challenging. There are several key indicators that can help you discern the source of your dissatisfaction:

  1. Lack of Passion: If you once felt enthusiastic and engaged in your job but have gradually lost interest and find it difficult to muster any enthusiasm, you may be facing a job-specific issue.

  2. Negative Emotions: Constantly experiencing negative emotions, such as dread, anxiety, or sadness, when thinking about work or during working hours, could be a sign of job-related discontentment.

  3. No Growth Potential: Feeling stuck in your current position with limited opportunities for professional growth and development can lead to job dissatisfaction.

  4. Toxic Work Environment: An unhealthy workplace culture, unsupportive colleagues, or a lack of recognition for your efforts can contribute to hating your job.

Should You Keep Working If You Hate Your Job?

Deciding whether to continue in a job you hate is a complex and personal choice. While some circumstances may require immediate action, it's essential to consider the potential consequences before making a decision:

  1. Financial Stability: Evaluate your financial situation and whether leaving your job would lead to significant financial strain. If possible, create a financial plan to support a potential career change.

  2. Job Market and Opportunities: Research the current job market and explore potential career paths. Assess if there are opportunities that align better with your interests and skills.

  3. Personal Health and Well-being: Persistent job dissatisfaction can take a toll on your mental and physical health. Prioritise your well-being when making career decisions.

Do I Hate My Job or Am I Just Burned Out?

It's essential to differentiate between hating your job and experiencing burnout, as they can share similar symptoms. Burnout is characterised by feeling emotionally drained, overwhelmed, and mentally exhausted due to chronic workplace stress. It can lead to a lack of motivation and decreased job satisfaction. However, burnout doesn't necessarily mean you hate the work itself.

If you suspect burnout, consider taking steps to address the underlying issues before making any drastic career changes:

  1. Self-Care: Prioritise self-care practices such as exercise, mindfulness, and spending time with loved ones to reduce stress and recharge.

  2. Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries between work and personal life to prevent burnout from spreading into other areas of your life.

Is It Okay That I Hate My Job?

It's entirely normal to have periods of dissatisfaction with your job or career. However, prolonged and intense feelings of unhappiness can significantly impact your overall well-being and happiness. Remember that acknowledging your feelings is the first step towards finding a solution:

  1. Seek Support: Talk to friends, family, or a professional coach about your feelings. A supportive network can offer valuable insights and guidance.

  2. Consider Coaching: If you find it challenging to navigate your career dissatisfaction alone, consider seeking assistance from a qualified career coach. They can help you gain clarity, identify strengths, and explore new opportunities.


Conclusion

Navigating the complexities of job dissatisfaction can be overwhelming, but understanding whether you hate your job or the act of working itself is a crucial starting point.

Reflect on the key indicators mentioned in this article to gain insights into your feelings. Remember, you have the power to make positive changes in your career and life.

If you need further guidance and support, consider reaching out to a professional career coach, like the services offered by Pam Reid Performance Coaching.

Together, we can uncover new paths that lead you to live life on your terms. Let's rise together!

With a degree in Psychology and now as an NLP Master Coach and Trainer, Pam is here to help clients quit their 9-5 and live the life they have always dreamed of.

Pam Reid

With a degree in Psychology and now as an NLP Master Coach and Trainer, Pam is here to help clients quit their 9-5 and live the life they have always dreamed of.

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