FOR THE COUPLE WHO WANT TO STAY IN THEIR MARRIAGE
BUT HAVE NO IDEA HOW OR WHERE TO START
The Long Marriage ®:
A Roadmap to
Lasting Love, Sex & Fun
We’re taught how to fall in love. Nobody really teaches us how
to stay there.
We know the beginning.
The chemistry. The choosing. The sex. The excitement. The feeling that you’ve found your person.
But nobody really prepares us for what happens 10, 20 or 30 years later.
When you’ve raised children, built careers, paid mortgages, weathered losses, changed bodies, changed priorities and become different versions of yourselves along the way.
And then one day you can look across at the person you chose and wonder:
What happened to us?
I don't believe this automatically means you chose the wrong person.
Or that you've fallen out of love.
Or that attraction disappearing means it's gone forever.
I think we've been sold a pretty shitty story about what long-term love is supposed to look like.
The Long Marriage is a different one.
It’s the idea that a great relationship isn't something you find and then desperately try to preserve exactly as it was.
It has to evolve because you do.
There will be seasons of closeness and distance. Times when sex is incredible and times when it disappears.
Years when you're deeply connected and periods when life takes over and you drift.
The goal isn't never drifting.
It's learning how to notice when you have ... and knowing how to
change course.
That means understanding the patterns you've created together. Taking responsibility for your part without taking all the blame. Staying curious about the person beside you as they change.
Bringing yourself back to life. Rebuilding attraction, connection, friendship, pleasure and play.
Not trying to get your
old relationship back.
Creating the next version of it.
Because staying together for a long time isn't the achievement.
Still wanting the life, and the person, you've chosen is.
This program is for you if:
You've tried relationship/couples counselling before and nothing changed
You are uncertain and fearful of your next steps in your relationship
You feel like you're the only one in your marriage trying
You feel like you love your partner, but not IN love with them
You want to bring back the fun and connection to your relationship
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Here's Why Lottery Winners Go Broke
“Become a millionaire not for the million dollars, but for what it will make of you to achieve it..” - Jim Rohn
The Lucky and the Lost:
5 Reasons Lottery Winners Go Broke within 3-5 Years
Winning the lottery is a dream come true for many people.
It’s the solution on many people’s lips …
“If only I won the lottery!! Then everything would be ok!!”
The idea of a sudden windfall of millions of dollars is undeniably tempting.
The stress of no money, not making ends meet and worrying about that next unexpected bill coming in is not nice.
I was with a guy once who said his family were the poorest at his boarding school.
Oh boo hoo.
It felt like my family was the poorest in public school, mate!
My mum went bankrupt at one stage as she got herself in a scary position of too much debt and not enough coming in.
Scary.
I know the impact of no money.
Yet, the reality is that 70% of lottery winners find themselves broke within 3-5 years of the win.
Why is this?
Here are 5 reasons why lottery winners don't keep their money.
1.Same patterns
How you live now, is how you’ll live anywhere with anything.
If you don’t change your patterns, your thinking in your neurology, you won’t change anything.
Your relationship with money will remain the same.
Think about this…
Are you good at saving?
Do you live pay cheque to pay cheque?
Do you buy unnecessary stuff?
Do you always feel like you don’t “have enough”?
How you feel about money now, will be exactly the same after a win.
No matter what you had in your bank – yeah, it might be on a grander scale…but?!
If you want to see money differently, change deep rooted patterns.
2. Boundaries
Winning the lottery can be isolating.
How many times have you heard someone say “if you won that money, you’d have to give me some?’
Friends and family may treat lottery winners differently - with some taking advantage of their new wealthy mate!
Who to trust?!
Add to the mix people pleasing and a lack of boundaries…
There’s a recipe for a money crash disaster!
If you lack boundaries now – what would be different when you had money in the bank?
The amount of people you’d have coming out of the woodwork!!
If you’re a people pleaser now – what would be different with a wad of cash in your pocket?
You’d feel like you had to say yes to everything!
And then, when you did say no – how would you feel?? How would people respond to that?
3. Financial knowledge
Ok, I’m going to lay it out straight.
If you think winning the lottery would solve all your problems…there’s a chance you aren’t making money and smashing the finances like the Warren Buffet’s of the world...!
Winning a large sum of money could be overwhelming.
Without the necessary knowledge and skills to manage this newfound wealth, it's easy to make poor decisions.
Not knowing how to invest, save, or budget (as mentioned about patterns!) is bound to lead to some costly mistakes.
Winning the lottery would be a life-changing event.
But if you were unprepared for the financial challenges it brings – what would be different for you? And yes, crying in a Mercedes instead of a Toyota is more appealing.
You're still crying though.
Would it be better to change your patterns now, rather than hoping and praying for that windfall to change your life?
What if you changed your thinking first…
And let those very changes were what allowed more money in??
Ps. I have not won a sum of money and nor do I believe I will – or want to!
I have though, changed my whole mindset on money!
On how much I need.
On the fear I felt with “not enough”.
I trust money will always come to me – in the amounts I am ready for.
I do believe I will make a large sum of money.
And that by changing clients patterns around money – they too can live lifes they’ve always dreamed of.
Pam is a former burnt out single mum and teacher and now is a NLP Trainer and Coach, helping women design lives they've always dreamed of.
Coming from average - schooling, grades, money...she's had to overcome her own struggles to choose a different lifestyle. To find out more, get in contact with Pam here.
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