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Me First, Us Forever™

No love, no intimacy, constant arguments...and you start wondering,

Is it time to divorce?

This is where I can help!

Not your usual "Talk Therapy", but a new way of looking at

relationship counselling.

Yes it might be time to divorce - but it also might be time to shift your old patterns.

This relationship coaching is for you if:

You've tried relationship counselling before and nothing changed

Your partner doesn't want to commit to counselling

(you CAN make massive changes in the Me First, Us Forever™ program)

You are uncertain and fearful of your next steps in your relationship

You face constant arguments and conflict in your relationship

You want to make things work for the family

You want to bring back your identity in your relationship

What Other's Say....

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

I don't know whether to stay in my relationship, can you help me?

Absolutely! For so many couples, knowing what's the right decision to make is hard.

This is what Relationship Counselling is for.

It's my job to help you (either alone or with your partner) uncover that and pull out the truth of where you are and what you truly want to do in life.

Word of warning - it's my job to boost your confidence so much that YOU decide what you want to do for you. This doesn't always mean staying. This can also be starting fresh. But the choice becomes clearer for you to make.

Does relationship counselling work?

This gets asked a lot! And really, the question turns into - what's the definition of "work"?

If by work, we mean...

  • Will you feel confident to make the decision that's right for you? Then yes, it works.

  • Will you feel more love for yourself and therefore others? Then yes, it works.

  • Are you going to be more in control of your reactions, your communication, your ability to handle conflict? Yes!

As a coach with expertise in psychology and behaviour, I quickly get to the root of the problem and guide you into shifting these patterns with new ways of communicating and treating each other.

Does it guarantee that your relationship will become exactly what you want? No. Because there are 2 parties involved.

Does it guarantee that you (and for couples who participate in the program together - both of you!) will feel clearer on your direction, your outcomes and your desires? Yes!

And for those couples committed to doing the work, you'll be amazed at what you can do to shift the passion, the fun, the connection in your relationship.

What's your guarantee?

Following all steps in the program and in the trainings will give you the techniques to completely transform your relationship.

BUT - just as you can't hire a personal trainer and expect them to do the weights for you and for you to see the results - I do not have a magic wand! You need to complete the program as outlined to see the results.

I will kick your a$$ when needed and ultimately -

You are responsible for showing up and putting in the work. If you don't use the techniques, you won't see any changes!

I can't guarantee your relationship will become perfect and long-lasting.

What I guarantee, is you will feel more amazing about YOURSELF and your life - no matter what's going on around you.

What's the cost?

I am passionate about helping anyone from all backgrounds and all budgets to access advice and guidance in context of love and relationships. As a former single-mum, I know I couldn't afford coaching and therapy when I was struggling to put food on the table for my kids!

For this reason I give out as much content as I can for FREE! (see my socials for this!)

I want you all to succeed in your relationships.


I run many free and super-cheap workshops you can attend.

Group workshops are aimed at remaining an affordable price for you to attend and get huge value from the programs.

Private relationship counselling varies in price, depending on individual/couples needs, goals and wants.

I work closely with a dedicated finance company, who do what they can to help their clients invest in themselves. Payment plan options can start from as little as $25 a week! (and that's like...roughly, 4 coffees a week?!). Have a look at some of their options here...

TLC Finance Company

For many couples, investing in improving their relationship comes too late - and they're staring at the possibility of losing half of everything you own from expensive divorce lawyers and courts...compared to that route, relationship counselling is cheap!!

I've heard a quote once from a male motivational speaker that made me chuckle -

"IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP HER"

I encourage you to reach out for options.

Let's chat to make a plan together xx

We don't have much time - how much work is there?

Yes, fitting ANOTHER thing in to your busy schedule can seem crazy. I agree! The work we do together is about clearing your life to make things easier.

We can design a plan for the program that works for you/you both.

See the options for programs and courses to see the possibilities.

What is different about your couples counselling?

There are many differences that I use in my programs compared to traditional counselling.

1) NLP

As a Master Practitioner and Trainer, I use techniques from NLP = Neuro Linguistic Programming (I know, what a name, right!!)

NLP helps us identify what you're doing in your head, the patterns that you've developed over years of functioning - then changes those patterns to serve you better.

2) Time Line Therapy ®

For 20+ years I carried around trauma from my childhood. 20+ years of traditional talk therapy, seeing Psychologists, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, even studying Psychology myself...and never managed to clear my triggers from my experiencing sexual abuse.

I was sick and tired of talking about it and re-living it!!

Then I experienced Time Line Therapy ®!

It is a process that allows you to clear yourself from crappy experiences and memories - without you even having to tell me what they are!! Imagine that - a process that doesn't require MORE talking about what went wrong!?

For many clients, Time Line Therapy ® leaves them feeling lighter and more in control of their emotions and decisions in their relationships - and life!!

3) Me First, Us Forever™ Program

You CAN work alone!

One of the biggest differences is that I work with individuals in the context of their relationship.

If one party finds the idea of couples counselling aversive - that's ok.

You can make MASSIVE differences from one person alone.

As I did - see my story in the About Me section.

Shifting old patterns, trauma, self-doubt, jealousy...and anything else that's come along with you all these years. This is where the magic happens.

Don't forget...it's not your partner's job to fix a trauma they didn't create!

And if they did make mistakes that you're finding hard to let go - then let's do the work together to free you from it!

Read My Blog

contemplating end of marriage

Is It the End If My Partner Won’t Go to Couples Counselling?

August 28, 20244 min read

When you suggest couple counselling and your partner refuses, it can feel like the end of the road. You might start questioning the future of your relationship, wondering if this refusal is a sign that your partner has already given up. But before you jump to conclusions, it’s important to understand that this isn’t necessarily the end. In fact, it could be the beginning of a different kind of healing for your relationship.

Understanding Your Partner’s Refusal

There are many reasons why someone might be hesitant to attend marriage counselling. For some, the idea of talking about relationship problems with a stranger can be intimidating. They might feel that airing private issues in front of a third party could make things worse rather than better.

Others may have had negative experiences with relationship therapy in the past. Perhaps they tried it before, and it didn’t work, leaving them with doubts about its effectiveness. They might also fear being blamed or judged, which can lead to defensiveness and a reluctance to participate.

It’s also possible that your partner doesn’t fully understand what relationship counselling is or how it can help. They may believe that therapy is only for relationships on the brink of divorce, not realizing that it can also be a tool for enhancing communication, resolving arguments, and reigniting the connection between partners.

Why It’s Not the End

Your partner’s refusal to attend couple counselling doesn’t mean that your relationship is doomed. It just means that traditional relationship therapy isn’t the right fit for them at this time. However, this doesn’t mean that all hope is lost.

One of the most powerful truths about relationships is that change can start with just one person. If you’re committed to improving your relationship, there are steps you can take on your own that can lead to profound shifts in your partnership. This is where Solo Couples Counselling comes in.

Solo Couples Counselling: Changing Yourself to Change Your Relationship

Solo Couples Counselling is designed for individuals who want to work on their relationship without needing their partner to participate in marriage counselling. By focusing on changing your own behaviors, thoughts, and emotional responses, you can create a ripple effect that transforms your relationship.

This approach acknowledges that while you can’t control your partner’s actions or choices, you can take charge of your own. By addressing your own patterns, you can shift the dynamics of your relationship, fostering more love, connection, and understanding—even if your partner isn’t actively involved in the counselling process.

Why Solo Couples Counselling Works

  • Self-Empowerment: When you work on yourself, you’re not waiting for your partner to change. You’re taking proactive steps to improve the relationship from your side, which can inspire change in your partner.

  • New Perspectives: Solo counselling allows you to gain insights into your relationship that you might not have seen before. You can learn new strategies for communication, conflict resolution, and emotional regulation that can enhance your relationship.

  • Less Pressure: Sometimes, the pressure of couple counselling can be overwhelming for one or both partners. Solo counselling removes that pressure, allowing you to work at your own pace.

  • Focus on What You Can Control: You can’t control your partner’s decision to attend therapy, but you can control your own growth and development. This focus on personal responsibility can be incredibly empowering and effective.

Addressing Specific Relationship Challenges

  • Empty Nesters: If you’re facing the challenges of being empty nesters, where the children have left home and you feel like you’re living with a roommate instead of a romantic partner, Solo Couples Counselling can help reignite the spark in your relationship.

  • No Love: If you feel like there’s no love left in your relationship, don’t despair. Solo counselling can help you rediscover the connection and passion you once had.

  • Roommates: If your relationship has devolved into feeling like you’re just roommates, working on yourself can shift the dynamic and bring back the closeness and intimacy you’ve been missing.

  • Arguments and Conflict: Constant arguments and ongoing conflict can be draining, but by focusing on your own growth, you can learn new ways to approach these issues, reducing tension and improving communication.

Take the First Step Today

If your partner isn’t ready or willing to go to couple counselling, don’t lose hope. Solo Couples Counselling can be the key to transforming your relationship from the inside out. By focusing on your own growth, you can create a healthier, more fulfilling relationship—even if you’re the only one doing the work.

Ready to take the first step? Explore my Solo Couples Counselling program, designed to help you change yourself so that your relationship can change too. It’s not the end; it’s just a new beginning.

With a degree in Psychology and now as an NLP Master Coach and Trainer, Pam is here to help clients quit their 9-5 and live the life they have always dreamed of.

Pam Reid

With a degree in Psychology and now as an NLP Master Coach and Trainer, Pam is here to help clients quit their 9-5 and live the life they have always dreamed of.

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