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No love, no intimacy, constant arguments...and you start wondering,
Not your usual "Talk Therapy", but a new way of looking at
relationship counselling.
Yes it might be time to divorce - but it also might be time to shift your old patterns.
This relationship coaching is for you if:
You've tried relationship counselling before and nothing changed
Your partner doesn't want to commit to counselling
(you CAN make massive changes in the Me First, Us Forever™ program)
You are uncertain and fearful of your next steps in your relationship
You face constant arguments and conflict in your relationship
You want to make things work for the family
You want to bring back your identity in your relationship
Absolutely! For so many couples, knowing what's the right decision to make is hard.
This is what Relationship Counselling is for.
It's my job to help you (either alone or with your partner) uncover that and pull out the truth of where you are and what you truly want to do in life.
Word of warning - it's my job to boost your confidence so much that YOU decide what you want to do for you. This doesn't always mean staying. This can also be starting fresh. But the choice becomes clearer for you to make.
This gets asked a lot! And really, the question turns into - what's the definition of "work"?
If by work, we mean...
Will you feel confident to make the decision that's right for you? Then yes, it works.
Will you feel more love for yourself and therefore others? Then yes, it works.
Are you going to be more in control of your reactions, your communication, your ability to handle conflict? Yes!
As a coach with expertise in psychology and behaviour, I quickly get to the root of the problem and guide you into shifting these patterns with new ways of communicating and treating each other.
Does it guarantee that your relationship will become exactly what you want? No. Because there are 2 parties involved.
Does it guarantee that you (and for couples who participate in the program together - both of you!) will feel clearer on your direction, your outcomes and your desires? Yes!
And for those couples committed to doing the work, you'll be amazed at what you can do to shift the passion, the fun, the connection in your relationship.
Following all steps in the program and in the trainings will give you the techniques to completely transform your relationship.
BUT - just as you can't hire a personal trainer and expect them to do the weights for you and for you to see the results - I do not have a magic wand! You need to complete the program as outlined to see the results.
I will kick your a$$ when needed and ultimately -
You are responsible for showing up and putting in the work. If you don't use the techniques, you won't see any changes!
I can't guarantee your relationship will become perfect and long-lasting.
What I guarantee, is you will feel more amazing about YOURSELF and your life - no matter what's going on around you.
I am passionate about helping anyone from all backgrounds and all budgets to access advice and guidance in context of love and relationships. As a former single-mum, I know I couldn't afford coaching and therapy when I was struggling to put food on the table for my kids!
For this reason I give out as much content as I can for FREE! (see my socials for this!)
I want you all to succeed in your relationships.
I run many free and super-cheap workshops you can attend.
Group workshops are aimed at remaining an affordable price for you to attend and get huge value from the programs.
Private relationship counselling varies in price, depending on individual/couples needs, goals and wants.
I work closely with a dedicated finance company, who do what they can to help their clients invest in themselves. Payment plan options can start from as little as $25 a week! (and that's like...roughly, 4 coffees a week?!). Have a look at some of their options here...
For many couples, investing in improving their relationship comes too late - and they're staring at the possibility of losing half of everything you own from expensive divorce lawyers and courts...compared to that route, relationship counselling is cheap!!
I've heard a quote once from a male motivational speaker that made me chuckle -
"IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP HER"
I encourage you to reach out for options.
Let's chat to make a plan together xx
Yes, fitting ANOTHER thing in to your busy schedule can seem crazy. I agree! The work we do together is about clearing your life to make things easier.
We can design a plan for the program that works for you/you both.
See the options for programs and courses to see the possibilities.
There are many differences that I use in my programs compared to traditional counselling.
1) NLP
As a Master Practitioner and Trainer, I use techniques from NLP = Neuro Linguistic Programming (I know, what a name, right!!)
NLP helps us identify what you're doing in your head, the patterns that you've developed over years of functioning - then changes those patterns to serve you better.
2) Time Line Therapy ®
For 20+ years I carried around trauma from my childhood. 20+ years of traditional talk therapy, seeing Psychologists, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, even studying Psychology myself...and never managed to clear my triggers from my experiencing sexual abuse.
I was sick and tired of talking about it and re-living it!!
Then I experienced Time Line Therapy ®!
It is a process that allows you to clear yourself from crappy experiences and memories - without you even having to tell me what they are!! Imagine that - a process that doesn't require MORE talking about what went wrong!?
For many clients, Time Line Therapy ® leaves them feeling lighter and more in control of their emotions and decisions in their relationships - and life!!
3) Me First, Us Forever™ Program
You CAN work alone!
One of the biggest differences is that I work with individuals in the context of their relationship.
If one party finds the idea of couples counselling aversive - that's ok.
You can make MASSIVE differences from one person alone.
As I did - see my story in the About Me section.
Shifting old patterns, trauma, self-doubt, jealousy...and anything else that's come along with you all these years. This is where the magic happens.
Don't forget...it's not your partner's job to fix a trauma they didn't create!
And if they did make mistakes that you're finding hard to let go - then let's do the work together to free you from it!
Long-term relationships, while rewarding, are not without their challenges. Over time, couples may find themselves facing issues that seem impossible to overcome. Whether it's growing apart, constant arguments, or the feeling of living like roommates, these challenges can leave you questioning the future of your relationship.
So, how do you know when it's time for marriage counselling?
1. Communication Breakdowns One of the most common problems in long-term relationships is poor communication. Over time, the open and honest conversations that once defined your relationship may dwindle into short, functional exchanges. If you find yourselves talking less or if conversations often end in arguments, it might be time to seek professional help through couple counselling.
2. Growing Apart: The 'Roommate' Syndrome Do you feel more like roommates than partners? It's not uncommon for couples, especially empty nesters, to drift apart over the years. The passion that once fueled your relationship may have faded, leaving you feeling like you're living with a stranger. If the love feels lost or you're living parallel lives, marriage counselling can help reignite the connection.
3. Frequent Arguments and Unresolved Conflicts Every couple argues, but when disagreements become frequent and intense, it can signal deeper relationship problems. Whether it's about finances, parenting, or simply day-to-day frustrations, ongoing conflict can erode the foundation of your relationship. Relationship therapy can provide tools to navigate and resolve these conflicts constructively.
4. Emotional Distance and Lack of Intimacy Emotional intimacy is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship. When one or both partners begin to feel emotionally distant, it can lead to feelings of loneliness and resentment. This emotional disconnection often manifests physically, with a noticeable decline in affection or intimacy. If you feel like there's no love left in the relationship, relationship counselling can help bridge the gap.
5. Considering Divorce When divorce becomes a frequent thought, it's a clear sign that your relationship needs attention. While divorce may sometimes be the best option, exploring marriage counselling can help you understand the underlying issues and possibly find a path to healing.
Marriage counselling provides a safe space for couples to explore their feelings, address underlying issues, and develop healthier ways of relating to one another. By working with the right relationship therapist, you can gain insights into your relationship dynamics, improve communication, and reignite the connection that brought you together in the first place.
Whether you're dealing with conflicts, feeling like roommates, or simply struggling to connect, seeking help through relationship therapy can be a vital step toward rebuilding your relationship.
Don't wait until it's too late.
What you might need isn't just the ordinary talk therapy but rather a transformative process that goes beyond surface-level conversations.
My husband and I during our worse times attended a private traditional couples counselling program.
It was a waste of time and money!!
Instead, a process that identifies the patterns in your behaviour that may be contributing to your relationship struggles, helping to clear the way for you to love and connect on a deeper level could be the magic wand that you’re looking for.
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