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No love, no intimacy, constant arguments...and you start wondering,
Not your usual "Talk Therapy", but a new way of looking at
relationship counselling.
Yes it might be time to divorce - but it also might be time to shift your old patterns.
This relationship coaching is for you if:
You've tried relationship counselling before and nothing changed
Your partner doesn't want to commit to counselling
(you CAN make massive changes in the Me First, Us Forever™ program)
You are uncertain and fearful of your next steps in your relationship
You face constant arguments and conflict in your relationship
You want to make things work for the family
You want to bring back your identity in your relationship
Absolutely! For so many couples, knowing what's the right decision to make is hard.
This is what Relationship Counselling is for.
It's my job to help you (either alone or with your partner) uncover that and pull out the truth of where you are and what you truly want to do in life.
Word of warning - it's my job to boost your confidence so much that YOU decide what you want to do for you. This doesn't always mean staying. This can also be starting fresh. But the choice becomes clearer for you to make.
This gets asked a lot! And really, the question turns into - what's the definition of "work"?
If by work, we mean...
Will you feel confident to make the decision that's right for you? Then yes, it works.
Will you feel more love for yourself and therefore others? Then yes, it works.
Are you going to be more in control of your reactions, your communication, your ability to handle conflict? Yes!
As a coach with expertise in psychology and behaviour, I quickly get to the root of the problem and guide you into shifting these patterns with new ways of communicating and treating each other.
Does it guarantee that your relationship will become exactly what you want? No. Because there are 2 parties involved.
Does it guarantee that you (and for couples who participate in the program together - both of you!) will feel clearer on your direction, your outcomes and your desires? Yes!
And for those couples committed to doing the work, you'll be amazed at what you can do to shift the passion, the fun, the connection in your relationship.
Following all steps in the program and in the trainings will give you the techniques to completely transform your relationship.
BUT - just as you can't hire a personal trainer and expect them to do the weights for you and for you to see the results - I do not have a magic wand! You need to complete the program as outlined to see the results.
I will kick your a$$ when needed and ultimately -
You are responsible for showing up and putting in the work. If you don't use the techniques, you won't see any changes!
I can't guarantee your relationship will become perfect and long-lasting.
What I guarantee, is you will feel more amazing about YOURSELF and your life - no matter what's going on around you.
I am passionate about helping anyone from all backgrounds and all budgets to access advice and guidance in context of love and relationships. As a former single-mum, I know I couldn't afford coaching and therapy when I was struggling to put food on the table for my kids!
For this reason I give out as much content as I can for FREE! (see my socials for this!)
I want you all to succeed in your relationships.
I run many free and super-cheap workshops you can attend.
Group workshops are aimed at remaining an affordable price for you to attend and get huge value from the programs.
Private relationship counselling varies in price, depending on individual/couples needs, goals and wants.
I work closely with a dedicated finance company, who do what they can to help their clients invest in themselves. Payment plan options can start from as little as $25 a week! (and that's like...roughly, 4 coffees a week?!). Have a look at some of their options here...
For many couples, investing in improving their relationship comes too late - and they're staring at the possibility of losing half of everything you own from expensive divorce lawyers and courts...compared to that route, relationship counselling is cheap!!
I've heard a quote once from a male motivational speaker that made me chuckle -
"IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP HER"
I encourage you to reach out for options.
Let's chat to make a plan together xx
Yes, fitting ANOTHER thing in to your busy schedule can seem crazy. I agree! The work we do together is about clearing your life to make things easier.
We can design a plan for the program that works for you/you both.
See the options for programs and courses to see the possibilities.
There are many differences that I use in my programs compared to traditional counselling.
1) NLP
As a Master Practitioner and Trainer, I use techniques from NLP = Neuro Linguistic Programming (I know, what a name, right!!)
NLP helps us identify what you're doing in your head, the patterns that you've developed over years of functioning - then changes those patterns to serve you better.
2) Time Line Therapy ®
For 20+ years I carried around trauma from my childhood. 20+ years of traditional talk therapy, seeing Psychologists, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, even studying Psychology myself...and never managed to clear my triggers from my experiencing sexual abuse.
I was sick and tired of talking about it and re-living it!!
Then I experienced Time Line Therapy ®!
It is a process that allows you to clear yourself from crappy experiences and memories - without you even having to tell me what they are!! Imagine that - a process that doesn't require MORE talking about what went wrong!?
For many clients, Time Line Therapy ® leaves them feeling lighter and more in control of their emotions and decisions in their relationships - and life!!
3) Me First, Us Forever™ Program
You CAN work alone!
One of the biggest differences is that I work with individuals in the context of their relationship.
If one party finds the idea of couples counselling aversive - that's ok.
You can make MASSIVE differences from one person alone.
As I did - see my story in the About Me section.
Shifting old patterns, trauma, self-doubt, jealousy...and anything else that's come along with you all these years. This is where the magic happens.
Don't forget...it's not your partner's job to fix a trauma they didn't create!
And if they did make mistakes that you're finding hard to let go - then let's do the work together to free you from it!
Introduction:
What keeps many of us from making that career change?
Yep, you guessed it! MONEY!
Our current job might have lost its appeal, but it's stable, secure, reliable, and steady.
There are many things that go through our minds when we consider alternatives...
What would happen to our income?
To our lifestyle?
To our family?
But would leaving or changing careers really be that terrible?
Is it possible to fill our days with more meaning, and to earn as much as we do now?
Is it possible to find purposeful work and not care if it pays us less?
Will you take a cut in pay?
One of the misconceptions about career change is the assumption that it requires a cut in pay. Who says? Many people who have switched careers have believed in their worth have walked into jobs where they earned more than they did before - and worked less hours! Not only that, but starting their own businesses and becoming their own boss has reaped the rewards in the long term - more than they could ever have achieved working for someone else. What are those other benefits really worth? Personal satisfaction, better work-life balance, and opportunities for growth? The idea that you WILL have to earn less is a belief that you can shift.
Might you need less?
The other part about changing jobs is the likelihood of "needing less". Moving from a burnt out teacher to owning my own business I spent less! I no longer felt this unhappy emptiness inside me, I no longer felt the pull to go out and buy new clothes, new furniture, new shoes - anything material - because I didn't feel so empty on the inside, I didn't have to look eternally to fill the gap.
You can look honestly at your budget and your lifestyle. What could you change if you really wanted more peace at work? What could you sacrifice now, knowing it would be better for you, your family, your wellbeing, in the long run? Being honest about our reality is key to admitting what we are willing to get rid of (or not!) and what is really holding us back. Hint...there will be some deep rooted beliefs here that are holding you back! Perhaps things like "I can't sell my current house and buy a smaller one because the neighbours will think I've failed". Unhelpful thoughts like that!
Wealth Vs Health?
It's crucial to remember that health reigns as the ultimate treasure. While financial stability can provide comfort and security, it's our physical and mental well-being that truly enriches our lives. Good health forms the foundation upon which we can build and enjoy the fruits of our labor. Without it, what is the use of money anyway?
Exit Strategy?
Planning and preparation play pivotal roles in mitigating financial stress during this transition. You don't have to leave in one giant leap without a carefully planned Exit Strategy. Taking small steps every day can lead you to your dream life sooner than you think. The difference a plan can make to your overall wellbeing is huge! Knowing I was planning my exit from the classroom did wonders for my moral! When I was feeling low and stressed out, I could think about my dream and know I was closer each day to getting there. For a worksheet on an effective Exit Strategy, request it here!
Are your ducks in a row?
I am a firm believer that your ducks do NOT have to be in a row before you start your transition. Our minds are like an overprotective parent. Think of those helicopter parents that dictate their poor child's every move!! This overprotective parent is looking for danger at every turn. It doesn't want you to feel uncomfortable, to struggle, to look bad, or to make mistakes. It wants the easy life, to stay in the comfort zone (aka...the Familiar Zone!), and to not take risks.
Growth and comfort do not co-exist
- Ginni Rometty -
You will always grow when you feel out of your comfort zone. You will take more action when you NEED to - rather than coming up with all the excuses as to why you haven't yet.
The saying goes - if you want to take the island, then you have to burn your boats. That way, you have no plan B. This doesn't mean you keep hammering an unsuccessful strategy, more that you keep your eye on the prize, your goal, with no going back, until you get what you are aiming for.
Pam is a former burnout teacher & single-parent. Now as an NLP, Hypnosis and Time Line Therapy® Trainer & Coach, she’s giving women their power back - let's all design lives we've always dreamed of!
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