YOUR

RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION

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Me First, Us Forever™

No love, no intimacy, constant arguments...and you start wondering,

Is it time to divorce?

This is where I can help!

Not your usual "Talk Therapy", but a new way of looking at

relationship counselling.

Yes it might be time to divorce - but it also might be time to shift your old patterns.

This relationship coaching is for you if:

You've tried relationship counselling before and nothing changed

Your partner doesn't want to commit to counselling

(you CAN make massive changes in the Me First, Us Forever™ program)

You are uncertain and fearful of your next steps in your relationship

You face constant arguments and conflict in your relationship

You want to make things work for the family

You want to bring back your identity in your relationship

What Other's Say....

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

I don't know whether to stay in my relationship, can you help me?

Absolutely! For so many couples, knowing what's the right decision to make is hard.

This is what Relationship Counselling is for.

It's my job to help you (either alone or with your partner) uncover that and pull out the truth of where you are and what you truly want to do in life.

Word of warning - it's my job to boost your confidence so much that YOU decide what you want to do for you. This doesn't always mean staying. This can also be starting fresh. But the choice becomes clearer for you to make.

Does relationship counselling work?

This gets asked a lot! And really, the question turns into - what's the definition of "work"?

If by work, we mean...

  • Will you feel confident to make the decision that's right for you? Then yes, it works.

  • Will you feel more love for yourself and therefore others? Then yes, it works.

  • Are you going to be more in control of your reactions, your communication, your ability to handle conflict? Yes!

As a coach with expertise in psychology and behaviour, I quickly get to the root of the problem and guide you into shifting these patterns with new ways of communicating and treating each other.

Does it guarantee that your relationship will become exactly what you want? No. Because there are 2 parties involved.

Does it guarantee that you (and for couples who participate in the program together - both of you!) will feel clearer on your direction, your outcomes and your desires? Yes!

And for those couples committed to doing the work, you'll be amazed at what you can do to shift the passion, the fun, the connection in your relationship.

What's your guarantee?

Following all steps in the program and in the trainings will give you the techniques to completely transform your relationship.

BUT - just as you can't hire a personal trainer and expect them to do the weights for you and for you to see the results - I do not have a magic wand! You need to complete the program as outlined to see the results.

I will kick your a$$ when needed and ultimately -

You are responsible for showing up and putting in the work. If you don't use the techniques, you won't see any changes!

I can't guarantee your relationship will become perfect and long-lasting.

What I guarantee, is you will feel more amazing about YOURSELF and your life - no matter what's going on around you.

What's the cost?

I am passionate about helping anyone from all backgrounds and all budgets to access advice and guidance in context of love and relationships. As a former single-mum, I know I couldn't afford coaching and therapy when I was struggling to put food on the table for my kids!

For this reason I give out as much content as I can for FREE! (see my socials for this!)

I want you all to succeed in your relationships.


I run many free and super-cheap workshops you can attend.

Group workshops are aimed at remaining an affordable price for you to attend and get huge value from the programs.

Private relationship counselling varies in price, depending on individual/couples needs, goals and wants.

I work closely with a dedicated finance company, who do what they can to help their clients invest in themselves. Payment plan options can start from as little as $25 a week! (and that's like...roughly, 4 coffees a week?!). Have a look at some of their options here...

TLC Finance Company

For many couples, investing in improving their relationship comes too late - and they're staring at the possibility of losing half of everything you own from expensive divorce lawyers and courts...compared to that route, relationship counselling is cheap!!

I've heard a quote once from a male motivational speaker that made me chuckle -

"IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP HER"

I encourage you to reach out for options.

Let's chat to make a plan together xx

We don't have much time - how much work is there?

Yes, fitting ANOTHER thing in to your busy schedule can seem crazy. I agree! The work we do together is about clearing your life to make things easier.

We can design a plan for the program that works for you/you both.

See the options for programs and courses to see the possibilities.

What is different about your couples counselling?

There are many differences that I use in my programs compared to traditional counselling.

1) NLP

As a Master Practitioner and Trainer, I use techniques from NLP = Neuro Linguistic Programming (I know, what a name, right!!)

NLP helps us identify what you're doing in your head, the patterns that you've developed over years of functioning - then changes those patterns to serve you better.

2) Time Line Therapy ®

For 20+ years I carried around trauma from my childhood. 20+ years of traditional talk therapy, seeing Psychologists, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, even studying Psychology myself...and never managed to clear my triggers from my experiencing sexual abuse.

I was sick and tired of talking about it and re-living it!!

Then I experienced Time Line Therapy ®!

It is a process that allows you to clear yourself from crappy experiences and memories - without you even having to tell me what they are!! Imagine that - a process that doesn't require MORE talking about what went wrong!?

For many clients, Time Line Therapy ® leaves them feeling lighter and more in control of their emotions and decisions in their relationships - and life!!

3) Me First, Us Forever™ Program

You CAN work alone!

One of the biggest differences is that I work with individuals in the context of their relationship.

If one party finds the idea of couples counselling aversive - that's ok.

You can make MASSIVE differences from one person alone.

As I did - see my story in the About Me section.

Shifting old patterns, trauma, self-doubt, jealousy...and anything else that's come along with you all these years. This is where the magic happens.

Don't forget...it's not your partner's job to fix a trauma they didn't create!

And if they did make mistakes that you're finding hard to let go - then let's do the work together to free you from it!

Read My Blog

Feel the fear

Is It Really Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway?

February 06, 20244 min read

Is It Really Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway??

During my poo picking mornings, I listen to valuable content to get my mind moving.

(Which is a tip in itself! When you're doing something sh!t - literally in this case - combine it with something useful/fun/constructive)

This morning I listened to Ed Mylett interviewing Jen Gottlieb, who has written the book 'Be Seen'.

Loved it!

There were some golden nuggets in there...let me highlight a few and put my lens on them.

Feeling Fear

How fear, as you learn and grow, is always there. 

And it's about shrinking the fear, rather than letting it control you.

Now, I don't believe that we have to live with fear itself (thanks to Time Line Therapy® for that!) but what I take from this...is the feeling of discomfort.

That when we are about to start a new chapter or step into a new role…it feels uncomfortable.

There might be a sense of ‘oh sh1t’ to that…and that’s ok.

There might be a touch of imposter syndrome…and that’s ok.

There might be a touch of anxiety that kicks in...and that's ok.

We have a range of techniques designed to help you overcome those AND as Ed and Jen say – the more you do, the more you bust through some of those beliefs.

And that leads me to beliefs.

Fear of something…for example…fear of looking stupid on camera…fear of upsetting someone…fear of getting trolled…

They are all examples of a limiting belief.

There will be a reason within those sentences that stems from a deeper belief you have.

For example, I had a client who hated the idea of recording herself for her social media.

Would film something, hate watching it back so much she couldn’t edit it – then decide never to post it as it was too bad.

The fear she felt, she said, was the fear of making a mistake.

But there was more to it than that!

It was her limiting beliefs that she had to be perfect at EVERYTHING that was at the root of this feeling.

Once we changed that belief using Time Line Therapy ®, the “fear” was gone.

Owning Your Fear

Which leads me into the discussion about owning your fear.

We know that your unconscious mind’s job is to preserve the body.

So, when something feels uncomfortable, your unconscious mind decides to give you all the feelings as to why you shouldn’t do that anymore.

Jen’s example about the ice bath is a good one.

The idea of jumping into a bucket of freezing cold water, full of ice… is not great!

Most people will instantly think no to that. I would!! 

Your unconscious mind then, sends a whole bunch of emotions to make you pay attention.

Fear.

Maybe anger.

Anxiety.

Perhaps even a touch of sadness.

Whatever pattern you've successfully used before, your mind will go to in times of stress.

Jen said she had a panic attack.

Yes.

Clever unconscious mind!!

When we realise that our unconscious mind wants to protect us, we can reassure it.

As the parent would to a child…

“hey buddy, it’s all good…this is safe…it’s gonna be hard, it might feel uncomfortable…but you know, we’re gonna be fine…we’re gonna get through this!”

Reassurance to the very part of us that is keeping us safe, keeping us feeling good, is absolute key to moving forwards in moments of discomfort.

Manifestation

Yes! Loved this section so much.

Jen highlighted the difference between LAW OF ATTRACTION and LAW OF ACTION!!

There is so much power in visualising where you want to go and your dreams.

Your unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between a real event and an imagined one.

(they use the term subconscious…same thing as unconscious mind)

So the more you create an image that feels real, sounds real, and looks real in your head…the more your mind looks for those very opportunities that will help that happen.

However, if you sit on the couch visualising about that new business…and never take any action towards it…

Nothing will happen.

If you visualise AND do the things that you need to DO…

Your world will change!!

There are 3 requisites for change:

1) Clear your baggage

2) Focus on what you want (not on what you don’t want)

3) Take ACTION (including reinforcing your boundaries)

And these are the foundations to lasting change.

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A great listen from 2 dedicated professionals in the personal development world.

If you listen to this too, let me know what you think!

With a degree in Psychology and now as an NLP Master Coach and Trainer, Pam is here to help clients quit their 9-5 and live the life they have always dreamed of.

Pam Reid

With a degree in Psychology and now as an NLP Master Coach and Trainer, Pam is here to help clients quit their 9-5 and live the life they have always dreamed of.

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