YOUR
RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION
STARTS HERE!
Me First, Us Forever™
No love, no intimacy, constant arguments...and you start wondering,
Is it time to divorce?
This is where I can help!
Not your usual "Talk Therapy", but a new way of looking at
relationship counselling.
Yes it might be time to divorce - but it also might be time to shift your old patterns.
This relationship coaching is for you if:
You've tried relationship counselling before and nothing changed
Your partner doesn't want to commit to counselling
(you CAN make massive changes in the Me First, Us Forever™ program)
You are uncertain and fearful of your next steps in your relationship
You face constant arguments and conflict in your relationship
You want to make things work for the family
You want to bring back your identity in your relationship
What Other's Say....
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
I don't know whether to stay in my relationship, can you help me?
Absolutely! For so many couples, knowing what's the right decision to make is hard.
This is what Relationship Counselling is for.
It's my job to help you (either alone or with your partner) uncover that and pull out the truth of where you are and what you truly want to do in life.
Word of warning - it's my job to boost your confidence so much that YOU decide what you want to do for you. This doesn't always mean staying. This can also be starting fresh. But the choice becomes clearer for you to make.
Does relationship counselling work?
This gets asked a lot! And really, the question turns into - what's the definition of "work"?
If by work, we mean...
Will you feel confident to make the decision that's right for you? Then yes, it works.
Will you feel more love for yourself and therefore others? Then yes, it works.
Are you going to be more in control of your reactions, your communication, your ability to handle conflict? Yes!
As a coach with expertise in psychology and behaviour, I quickly get to the root of the problem and guide you into shifting these patterns with new ways of communicating and treating each other.
Does it guarantee that your relationship will become exactly what you want? No. Because there are 2 parties involved.
Does it guarantee that you (and for couples who participate in the program together - both of you!) will feel clearer on your direction, your outcomes and your desires? Yes!
And for those couples committed to doing the work, you'll be amazed at what you can do to shift the passion, the fun, the connection in your relationship.
What's your guarantee?
Following all steps in the program and in the trainings will give you the techniques to completely transform your relationship.
BUT - just as you can't hire a personal trainer and expect them to do the weights for you and for you to see the results - I do not have a magic wand! You need to complete the program as outlined to see the results.
I will kick your a$$ when needed and ultimately -
You are responsible for showing up and putting in the work. If you don't use the techniques, you won't see any changes!
I can't guarantee your relationship will become perfect and long-lasting.
What I guarantee, is you will feel more amazing about YOURSELF and your life - no matter what's going on around you.
What's the cost?
I am passionate about helping anyone from all backgrounds and all budgets to access advice and guidance in context of love and relationships. As a former single-mum, I know I couldn't afford coaching and therapy when I was struggling to put food on the table for my kids!
For this reason I give out as much content as I can for FREE! (see my socials for this!)
I want you all to succeed in your relationships.
I run many free and super-cheap workshops you can attend.
Group workshops are aimed at remaining an affordable price for you to attend and get huge value from the programs.
Private relationship counselling varies in price, depending on individual/couples needs, goals and wants.
I work closely with a dedicated finance company, who do what they can to help their clients invest in themselves. Payment plan options can start from as little as $25 a week! (and that's like...roughly, 4 coffees a week?!). Have a look at some of their options here...
For many couples, investing in improving their relationship comes too late - and they're staring at the possibility of losing half of everything you own from expensive divorce lawyers and courts...compared to that route, relationship counselling is cheap!!
I've heard a quote once from a male motivational speaker that made me chuckle -
"IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP HER"
I encourage you to reach out for options.
Let's chat to make a plan together xx
We don't have much time - how much work is there?
Yes, fitting ANOTHER thing in to your busy schedule can seem crazy. I agree! The work we do together is about clearing your life to make things easier.
We can design a plan for the program that works for you/you both.
See the options for programs and courses to see the possibilities.
What is different about your couples counselling?
There are many differences that I use in my programs compared to traditional counselling.
1) NLP
As a Master Practitioner and Trainer, I use techniques from NLP = Neuro Linguistic Programming (I know, what a name, right!!)
NLP helps us identify what you're doing in your head, the patterns that you've developed over years of functioning - then changes those patterns to serve you better.
2) Time Line Therapy ®
For 20+ years I carried around trauma from my childhood. 20+ years of traditional talk therapy, seeing Psychologists, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, even studying Psychology myself...and never managed to clear my triggers from my experiencing sexual abuse.
I was sick and tired of talking about it and re-living it!!
Then I experienced Time Line Therapy ®!
It is a process that allows you to clear yourself from crappy experiences and memories - without you even having to tell me what they are!! Imagine that - a process that doesn't require MORE talking about what went wrong!?
For many clients, Time Line Therapy ® leaves them feeling lighter and more in control of their emotions and decisions in their relationships - and life!!
3) Me First, Us Forever™ Program
You CAN work alone!
One of the biggest differences is that I work with individuals in the context of their relationship.
If one party finds the idea of couples counselling aversive - that's ok.
You can make MASSIVE differences from one person alone.
As I did - see my story in the About Me section.
Shifting old patterns, trauma, self-doubt, jealousy...and anything else that's come along with you all these years. This is where the magic happens.
Don't forget...it's not your partner's job to fix a trauma they didn't create!
And if they did make mistakes that you're finding hard to let go - then let's do the work together to free you from it!
Read My Blog
The Decision to Become a Coach
“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” - Oprah Winfrey -
Introduction:
Embarking on the journey to become a coach is a profound decision, one that involves self-discovery, passion, and a commitment to personal growth.
As an expert trainer and coach, I understand the weight that this decision carries and the transformative power it holds for individuals seeking a fulfilling career change.
In this blog, I delve into the intricacies of "The Decision to Become a Coach," offering insights and guidance for aspiring coaches during this pivotal moment of personal reflection
1. Unearthing the Passion Within
Before one can embark on the path of coaching, it is essential to delve into the core of their passions. Coaching is not just a profession; it's a calling that aligns with your deepest values and desires. Reflect on the aspects of your life that energize and fulfill you. What topics or activities evoke a sense of purpose? By identifying your passions, you lay the foundation for a coaching journey that is not only rewarding for your clients but also deeply satisfying for yourself.
2. Addressing Doubts and Fears
The decision to become a coach often comes with a host of doubts and fears. Am I qualified enough? Can I make a living as a coach? What if I fail? It's crucial to acknowledge these apprehensions and address them with compassion. Reflect on past accomplishments, recognize your strengths, and understand that the journey to becoming a coach is a continuous learning process. By embracing the unknown and viewing challenges as opportunities for growth, you empower yourself to navigate the uncertainties that accompany a career transition.
3. Embracing a Growth Mindset
Coaching is inherently tied to personal and professional development. As you reflect on the decision to become a coach, cultivate a growth mindset. Understand that every experience, success, and setback contributes to your evolution as a coach. Embrace a mindset that views challenges as opportunities to refine your skills and enhance your impact. This positive outlook not only fuels your own growth but also becomes a powerful asset in supporting your future clients on their transformative journeys.
4. Aligning Values with Coaching Niches
One of the beautiful aspects of coaching is the diversity of niches and specializations available. Take the time to explore and align your values with potential coaching niches. Whether it's life coaching, career coaching, or wellness coaching, find a niche that resonates with your passions and allows you to make a meaningful impact. This alignment not only enhances your effectiveness as a coach but also creates a sense of authenticity that clients are naturally drawn to.
5. Building a Support System
The decision to become a coach is not one that has to be made in isolation. Building a strong support system is integral to your success. Seek guidance from experienced coaches, connect with like-minded individuals, and surround yourself with a community that understands and supports your journey. The insights and encouragement from others who have walked a similar path can be invaluable as you navigate the nuances of transitioning to a coaching career.
Conclusion: A Journey of Self-Discovery
In concluding this personal reflection on the decision to become a coach, remember that this journey is as much about self-discovery as it is about guiding others. By embracing your passions, addressing doubts, fostering a growth mindset, aligning with your values, and building a support system, you set the stage for a fulfilling and impactful coaching career. The decision to become a coach is not just a professional choice; it's a transformative journey that unfolds as you continue to learn, evolve, and inspire positive change in the lives of others.
Other resources to help you get started with coaching
The Aspiring Coaches Checklist:
As you embark on the transformative journey of becoming a coach, use this comprehensive checklist to guide your steps and ensure you're well-prepared for the rewarding path ahead:
Reflect and write out the activities and topics that bring you joy and fulfilment.
Identify areas where you naturally excel and list out when you have felt a deep sense of purpose.
What apprehensions do you have? Write them out to bring them to your awareness.
Remind yourself of past accomplishments and strengths - list them out and allow them to boost your confidence.
Embrace and welcome challenges as opportunities for personal and professional growth.
View setbacks as valuable learning experiences on your coaching journey. Make notes on them and write what you have learnt from each experience.
Research different coaching niches and specialties. Which ones appeal to you and why?
Align your values and interests with potential niches to find your authentic coaching voice.
Connect with experienced coaches for guidance and insights. Join groups and networks.
Establish a network of like-minded individuals who understand and support your career transition. AND be careful on who you tell your dreams to. Not everyone will understand them.
Create a detailed roadmap outlining specific goals and milestones for your coaching journey.
Set realistic timelines for acquiring certifications and launching your coaching practice.
Cultivate optimism and a positive outlook on your coaching career by focusing on what you want - NOT on what you don't want.
Embrace the unknown with enthusiasm, knowing that each step contributes to your growth.
Identify relevant training programs and certifications that give you the necessary skills to coach at a high level - such as the NLP Practitioner Certification.
Stay committed to continuous learning to refine your coaching skills by planning your professional development.
Share your passion, values, and expertise to attract potential clients and collaborators.
As you gain experience, collect testimonials from clients to build credibility.
Share testimonials to showcase the impact of your coaching services.
Prioritise your well-being and schedule time to ensure a healthy work-life balance.
Regularly assess your progress and adjust your goals and strategies as needed.
By systematically checking off each item on this list, you'll equip yourself with the tools and mindset needed for a successful transition into the fulfilling world of coaching.
For support on your journey and to be amongst likeminded aspiring coaches, join my private Facebook group where I share tips and trainings to help you succeed! Here's the link to join (don't forget to answer the questions to join)
Remember, your journey is unique, and each step you take contributes to your growth as a coach and a catalyst for positive change in the lives of others. Embrace the process, and enjoy the rewarding adventure ahead!
Good luck and have fun on your journey.
Pam
xx
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