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No love, no intimacy, constant arguments...and you start wondering,
Not your usual "Talk Therapy", but a new way of looking at
relationship counselling.
Yes it might be time to divorce - but it also might be time to shift your old patterns.
This relationship coaching is for you if:
You've tried relationship counselling before and nothing changed
Your partner doesn't want to commit to counselling
(you CAN make massive changes in the Me First, Us Forever™ program)
You are uncertain and fearful of your next steps in your relationship
You face constant arguments and conflict in your relationship
You want to make things work for the family
You want to bring back your identity in your relationship
Absolutely! For so many couples, knowing what's the right decision to make is hard.
This is what Relationship Counselling is for.
It's my job to help you (either alone or with your partner) uncover that and pull out the truth of where you are and what you truly want to do in life.
Word of warning - it's my job to boost your confidence so much that YOU decide what you want to do for you. This doesn't always mean staying. This can also be starting fresh. But the choice becomes clearer for you to make.
This gets asked a lot! And really, the question turns into - what's the definition of "work"?
If by work, we mean...
Will you feel confident to make the decision that's right for you? Then yes, it works.
Will you feel more love for yourself and therefore others? Then yes, it works.
Are you going to be more in control of your reactions, your communication, your ability to handle conflict? Yes!
As a coach with expertise in psychology and behaviour, I quickly get to the root of the problem and guide you into shifting these patterns with new ways of communicating and treating each other.
Does it guarantee that your relationship will become exactly what you want? No. Because there are 2 parties involved.
Does it guarantee that you (and for couples who participate in the program together - both of you!) will feel clearer on your direction, your outcomes and your desires? Yes!
And for those couples committed to doing the work, you'll be amazed at what you can do to shift the passion, the fun, the connection in your relationship.
Following all steps in the program and in the trainings will give you the techniques to completely transform your relationship.
BUT - just as you can't hire a personal trainer and expect them to do the weights for you and for you to see the results - I do not have a magic wand! You need to complete the program as outlined to see the results.
I will kick your a$$ when needed and ultimately -
You are responsible for showing up and putting in the work. If you don't use the techniques, you won't see any changes!
I can't guarantee your relationship will become perfect and long-lasting.
What I guarantee, is you will feel more amazing about YOURSELF and your life - no matter what's going on around you.
I am passionate about helping anyone from all backgrounds and all budgets to access advice and guidance in context of love and relationships. As a former single-mum, I know I couldn't afford coaching and therapy when I was struggling to put food on the table for my kids!
For this reason I give out as much content as I can for FREE! (see my socials for this!)
I want you all to succeed in your relationships.
I run many free and super-cheap workshops you can attend.
Group workshops are aimed at remaining an affordable price for you to attend and get huge value from the programs.
Private relationship counselling varies in price, depending on individual/couples needs, goals and wants.
I work closely with a dedicated finance company, who do what they can to help their clients invest in themselves. Payment plan options can start from as little as $25 a week! (and that's like...roughly, 4 coffees a week?!). Have a look at some of their options here...
For many couples, investing in improving their relationship comes too late - and they're staring at the possibility of losing half of everything you own from expensive divorce lawyers and courts...compared to that route, relationship counselling is cheap!!
I've heard a quote once from a male motivational speaker that made me chuckle -
"IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP HER"
I encourage you to reach out for options.
Let's chat to make a plan together xx
Yes, fitting ANOTHER thing in to your busy schedule can seem crazy. I agree! The work we do together is about clearing your life to make things easier.
We can design a plan for the program that works for you/you both.
See the options for programs and courses to see the possibilities.
There are many differences that I use in my programs compared to traditional counselling.
1) NLP
As a Master Practitioner and Trainer, I use techniques from NLP = Neuro Linguistic Programming (I know, what a name, right!!)
NLP helps us identify what you're doing in your head, the patterns that you've developed over years of functioning - then changes those patterns to serve you better.
2) Time Line Therapy ®
For 20+ years I carried around trauma from my childhood. 20+ years of traditional talk therapy, seeing Psychologists, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, even studying Psychology myself...and never managed to clear my triggers from my experiencing sexual abuse.
I was sick and tired of talking about it and re-living it!!
Then I experienced Time Line Therapy ®!
It is a process that allows you to clear yourself from crappy experiences and memories - without you even having to tell me what they are!! Imagine that - a process that doesn't require MORE talking about what went wrong!?
For many clients, Time Line Therapy ® leaves them feeling lighter and more in control of their emotions and decisions in their relationships - and life!!
3) Me First, Us Forever™ Program
You CAN work alone!
One of the biggest differences is that I work with individuals in the context of their relationship.
If one party finds the idea of couples counselling aversive - that's ok.
You can make MASSIVE differences from one person alone.
As I did - see my story in the About Me section.
Shifting old patterns, trauma, self-doubt, jealousy...and anything else that's come along with you all these years. This is where the magic happens.
Don't forget...it's not your partner's job to fix a trauma they didn't create!
And if they did make mistakes that you're finding hard to let go - then let's do the work together to free you from it!
Am I having a Midlife Crisis?
It’s your 40’s – and are you gently flowing down a beautiful stream, allowing the tide to take you on a wonderful, peaceful journey….or are you careening around like an out of control bus without Keanu Reeves as the driver ?
If you’re anything like the women I work with – you’re the latter!!
And it doesn’t feel as exciting as watching Sandra Bullock do it.
For women navigating a midlife crisis, the journey can be filled with uncertainty and emotional turbulence. Many grapple with questions about their identity, feeling lost in both personal and professional realms.
There's a palpable sense of discontentment with career paths chosen and a longing for deeper fulfilment.
Alongside this, there's the struggle with changing body image, a source of insecurity in a society that often favours youth.
Relationship dynamics add another layer of complexity, with strains appearing in various facets of life. As children get older, marriages are filled with a couple who suddenly realised they don’t really know each other like they used to.
Existential ponderings about the meaning of it all…combined with the real truth of mortality… a sense of urgency for change arises.
Whether the rug has been pulled from under their feet from a health scare, losing a loved one or a big change in circumstances, women start to ask…
Is this all there is to life?
The search for meaning intensifies.
With women questioning their life choices, their values, and their sense of purpose.
The most exciting part about this time of a woman’s life?
This period of questioning can lead to profound personal growth. PROFOUND!!!
1) Stillness:
For many women, they have looked after others all their life. They’ve been the good girl, the people pleaser, the dependable one, sacrificing their own needs so much that they have lost who they are – and what they REALLY want.
Finding ways to still an overactive mind such as meditation, yoga - even taking yourself for a quiet walk in nature – can all help in listening to and discovering your deeper voice that knows the truth in how you feel and what you want to be doing.
Explore new passions:
Without having the chance to do much for yourself, you might be wondering what you even love doing! This is the perfect time to explore interests and activities that ignite your passion and bring you joy. Whether that’s painting, hiking, cooking classes or pottery…give some new hobbies a go and see what that does to zesting up your life.
Self-compassion:
Show yourself kindness and understanding for yourself as you navigate this challenging phase.
Practice self-compassion by acknowledging your feelings without judgment and treating yourself with the same warmth and empathy you would offer to a dear friend.
Seek Support:
Don't hesitate to lean on friends, family, or a professional coach for support. Sharing your experiences and emotions with others can provide comfort and perspective during times of uncertainty.
Ultimately, looking at your midlife as the opportunity to do something new, something for yourself can bring you immense joy.
With age comes wisdom...and the world needs more wisdom right now!
If you’re looking at ways to grow and re-invent yourself, a self-development program might just be what you need.
Surrounding yourself with likeminded women on similar journeys is a beautiful way to thrive in this time of your life.
If you're ready, I can't wait to hear from you!
Much love,
Pam
xx
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